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Trial & Errors: The Abstinence Approach to Dating & Marriage
As Christians, we are taught that sex is reserved for marriage. But for real tho, how many people do you know who actually follow that rule? From my personal experience, and 19 years spent working with 100's of couples and singles, many people don't. But there's of a...
Millennial Dating Chronicles – EP. 10: Reclaiming My Time & My Black Identity
How do you find your identity in this world? Some people inherit it from their family or identify with it through their culture. But what if your family situation was a little-bit tricky? And what if your culture forced you to turn your back on it? How do you grow up...
How to Date You: The Millennial Guide to Going On A Date With You
In my 19-year experience as a Relationship Consultant, I've seen people pursued dating and relationships every kinda way. The friends-first approach. The Co-worker approach. The group outing/game night meetup approach. And the riskiest, the walk up to a stranger and...
“How’d You Meet?” | 2019 Valentine’s Day Special
Online dating apps. Slids in the DM. Kick-backs and Meetups. High School and college sweetheart. Office-bae. With so many ways for people to connect, we at the Millennial Dating Chronicles, for Valentine's Day 2019, want to celebrate couples and the different ways...
Sex & Dating: When to Do It
One of the questions I explored in our conversation with Millennials was the intersection between sex and dating. When is it ok to start having sex? While you're dating? After you're in a relationship? After marriage...or on the first night? As you can imagine, the...
Don’t Be So Anxious – Trust the Process
Every date you go on or relationship you enter is different. He's different. She's different. Your stage of life is different. And it's this unpredictable dating variety that causes so much anxiety over what to expect in your future dating/relationship experiences. So...
It Goes Down In The DM
To slid or not to slide...that is the question. I often hear how taboo it is to slide is someone's DM (direct message). But the sliding doth persist! So much so that rapper Yo Gotti did a parody video called [It Goes] Down in the DM, which mimics the real-life...
She’s the One That Got Away
Regret is a ___________ (you fill in the blank). In the dating space, sometimes regret occurs after you realize you screwed up and let the one you really want get away. Hindsight becomes your counselor. And that crafty bastard...regret...teaches you a life lesson you...
Breakups That Changed the Path of Your Life
If you've ever been in a relationship...then you've BEEN in a relationship. Meaning, you've been through a breakup. Some breakups are welcomed. But then there are those that are marked by an incident, an encounter, or a revelation that completely changed the path of...
#ShootYourShot 2018 (pt 2): “I Just Did That”
Getting the nerve to approach someone is one thing. Asking them out on a date is another. But then going on that date is and building a connection might be the biggest challenge of all. Last episode, Chiereme shared how she walked up to a guy she'd only seen a few...
#ShootYourShot2018 (pt 1)
As an African American Christian woman, societal dating norms promote that women should wait to be foun't - that proverbial Boaz & Ruth situation (read the story of Ruth & Boaz in the book of Ruth in the bible). But what happens when you've waited...and...
The Millennial Dating Chronicles (promo video)
MILLENNIALS. While they are trying to figure out how to pursue their purpose and build a career as "adults", they are also faced with figuring out this big ball of confusion...called dating. "When to date? Who to date?" "Are they bae material? Or is it just game?"...
She’s Venting: Husbands Helping Out & the Role of Compromise in Relationships
Apparently this woman wants to vent. Back to back to back questions about what she thinks her husband should be doing. That's ok gurl! Purge! Get it out! We are here for it! You're gonna want to hear our response to this lady's latest two questions about husbands...
Should Husbands (Besides Me) Cook Too
Decades ago, the topic of husbands cooking in a marriage used to fall along gender lines. But now, the responsibility of cooking is more egalitarian. In other words, husbands be up in the kitchen too. But how often...thought? Are husbands carrying their fair share of...
Heath & Bernie’s VLOG Blooper Footage – @ Allen Pond
So...Bernie and I decided to do a video update of the new services we now offer and answer some relationship questions we received. We thought we'd be fancy and go to our favorite park, Allen Pond, and shoot the video outside. But what we didn't anticipate is all the...
It’s Been A Great Run, But the Relationship Bootcamp is Officially…
It's been a great run. But after 17 years, Bernie and I have decided to retire the Relationship Bootcamp. I know...I know. You're devastated. Us too. But it was time. Running around in the woods for 5 hours on the weekend takes its toll on a brotha. Plus, it was time...
Things Bernie & I Do to Make Our Marriage Better – Part 3
This is the 3rd and final part of Bernie and I sharing what we did when we started off 19 years ago to make our marriage good, and what we still do to make it even better. If you missed Part 2, watch it here. In this episode, we talk about why marriage works best when...
Things Bernie & I Do to Make Our Marriage Better – Part 2
This is Part 2 of Bernie and I sharing what we did when we started off 19 years ago to make our marriage good, and what we still do to make it even better. If you missed Part 1, watch it here. Enjoy. I hope this proves helpful to your relationship. Bootcamp Dates:...
Things Bernie & I Do to Make Our Marriage Better – Part 1
We've been talking about how to solve problems in your relationship for 25 questions straight. We're going to take a break from that for a minute and talk about us. Because not everybody's relationship is fraught with problems. Some just want to know how to take it...
Do I Give Up On Her Potential…or Just Settle For Her Minimal Growth?
Leadership in a marriage is toggled back and forth between the husband and wife, depending on what the couple is doing and who is best fit to lead the activity. In a Christian marriage, the bible teaches that the husband is generally responsible for the leadership...