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I Don’t Have It All Together…So I Feel I Might Not Be A Good Spouse
The notion that you have to have everything all together in order to be a good spouse is a lie from the pit of hell. Don't nobody have their life all together...to the point where they can be a good spouse. The key is working on getting your life together...over time....
What Do You Do When You Realize You’re Not Ready for Marriage…but You’re Already Married?
You can take pre-marital counseling and be ready to "get married". But "marriage" is an ever evolving anamorphosis of unexpected changes. And you must adjust to those changes if your marriage is going to last. Some people you go into marriage thinking that their...
How Do I Get My Wife to Respect My Grind?
The hustle. The grind. Every entrepreneur, solo-preneur, and even want-trepeneur do it. Both men and women alike. Your grind requires a committed investment of time, energy, and money. So does building a relationship. Finding the investment balance between your grind...
How to Stop Unhealed Wounds from Past Relationships from Wrecking My Marriage
If you've ever been in a relationship and broken up, then you're probably familiar with how those wounds spill over into your next relationship. We sometimes refer to these wounds as "baggage". By the time you get married, some of us carry a nice set of well-traveled...
Top 3 Most Memorable Bootcamp Lessons Learned
Had a great time at the Relationship Bootcamp for Dating & Engaged Couples. There were so many nuggets dropped at the Bootcamp, it's hard to pinpoint which ones were the most helpful. When we were helping one couple improve their communication process, the other...
Define Dating vs. Being in a Relationship: Should Single Women Date Multiple People?
I wish the art and skill of dating were promoted more in the Christian community. I've heard the church's traditional argument that promotes courting over dating. But I believe dating is a legit intermediary stage that comes before you start courting. So...how should...
When is it Time To Tell Your Boyfriend to Piss or Get Off the Pot?
How long should it take for a man to decide he wants to put a ring on it. This question confounds many women. And men too. There are two factors a woman should consider when determining how long she should wait. But there are more important factors that determine...
What About Prenups? Is that Christian?
They didn't have prenups back in the bible days. So...is it okay to get a prenup nowadays...especially if you're older and more established? Interesting question. With as many marriages that have ended in divorce since the 1980s, the notion of having a 'til death do...
Should a Girlfriend do Wifely Duties? How Much is Too Much?
The young lady wrote in and asked us a question. She wanted to know her if it was appropriate for a girlfriend to do wifely duties, such as lookout for a man who was possibly down on his luck (i.e., unemployed), for her boyfriend who she was currently living with....
How Do I Get on One Accord with My Girlfriend?
A guy wanted to know how to get on one accord with his girlfriend? Great question. Noble pursuit. But please know...this elusive "one accord" that he seeks is not a destination. It a process. Bernie and I discuss the two steps to achieve this 'one-accord-ness' (I just...
Neediness! What to do if Your Mate is Too Needy.
Everyone wants to be needed. But nobody like a needy person. But before you deal with their neediness, you have to find out if it's coming from one of two places. Bernie and I talk about the reasons why people are needy in relationships and how to deal with them....
How How Long Does it Take to Know if You Want to be With Him or Not?
For some people, it's love at first sight. For others, it takes a few months. For others, a few years. So how long should it take to know if your mate's the person you want to be with? The answer is...it depends on this one thing. Watch the video below. Register the...
How Do You Build Trust When He’s Secretive With His Phone
There's a fine line between being private and being secretive. Once you cross that line over to being secretive, that's when you risk damaging the trust in your relationship. In the case of someone being secretive with their phone, how do you build that trust?...
What Do You Do If Your Mate is Too Busy for You?
We got mail! A woman sent me an email and wanted to know what to do about the man she's dating. He apparently is too busy to spend significant time with her. And given that her love language is quality time...what should she do. Bernie and I discuss what we think she...
What Are Some Practical Ways to Prepare for Marriage?
What are some practical ways to prepare for marriage? And it's not to first go to marital counseling. Here are our 5 recommendations for what we think couples should do to prepare for marriage. We did them and it worked us. Also, see how the Relationship Bootcamp...
Guy Tips on What to do for Dating Anniversaries and Special Celebrations
GUYS...have you ever had difficulty figuring out what to do for a dating anniversary’s or celebration of a special moment? Here are some tips to help you figure out what to do. LADIES...is your man struggle with this?Here are some tips to help you figure out what to...
How Do You Deal with Insecurity…Your Mate’s and Your Own?
Everybody has some form of insecurity in their relationship. And if you say you don't...you-za lie. We had to deal with Bernie's when we first got married. Like...the first 4-5 year. But being new to the marriage game, you just figure it out and push forward. But if...
How to Find Out What His Plan Are for the Future…and If You’re Included
If you've been dating a man for a while, wouldn't you like to know what is his plans are for the future? I'm not talking about the plans for his career, travel, or side-hustle. I'm talking about plans for marriage and family. More importantly, wouldn't you want to...
How Do You Know When You’re Doing Too Much in Your Relationship
If you've been dating for a while and you feel like you've been giving and giving and giving...and not a lot of receiving, you might be doing too much in your relationship. Or maybe you're just overreacting? Which one is it? Bernie and I answer this questions for...
What Do You Do If Your Family Disapproves of Your Relationship
When Bernie and I got married, her family didn't necessarily like me. In part because, they didnt' know me. They lived in California and I lived in Maryland. I didn't meet them until the wedding. I was told I came off a little harsh. Eventually, after they got to know...