The notion that you have to have everything all together in order to be a good spouse is a lie from the pit of hell. Don’t nobody have their life all together…to the point where they can be a good spouse.
The key is working on getting your life together…over time. And that takes growth…growth that you go through together as you build and develop your marriage over time.
Invest in your growth as a spouse and register for the Relationship Bootcamp for Newlyweds. We can help you figure out what things each of you need to work on to be better husband or wife.
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Define Dating vs. Being in a Relationship: Should Single Women Date Multiple People?
I wish the art and skill of dating were promoted more in the Christian community. I've heard the church's traditional argument that promotes courting over dating. But I believe dating is a legit intermediary stage that comes before you start courting. So...how should...
When is it Time To Tell Your Boyfriend to Piss or Get Off the Pot?
How long should it take for a man to decide he wants to put a ring on it. This question confounds many women. And men too. There are two factors a woman should consider when determining how long she should wait. But there are more important factors that determine...
What About Prenups? Is that Christian?
They didn't have prenups back in the bible days. So...is it okay to get a prenup nowadays...especially if you're older and more established? Interesting question. With as many marriages that have ended in divorce since the 1980s, the notion of having a 'til death do...
Should a Girlfriend do Wifely Duties? How Much is Too Much?
The young lady wrote in and asked us a question. She wanted to know her if it was appropriate for a girlfriend to do wifely duties, such as lookout for a man who was possibly down on his luck (i.e., unemployed), for her boyfriend who she was currently living with....
How Do I Get on One Accord with My Girlfriend?
A guy wanted to know how to get on one accord with his girlfriend? Great question. Noble pursuit. But please know...this elusive "one accord" that he seeks is not a destination. It a process. Bernie and I discuss the two steps to achieve this 'one-accord-ness' (I just...
Neediness! What to do if Your Mate is Too Needy.
Everyone wants to be needed. But nobody like a needy person. But before you deal with their neediness, you have to find out if it's coming from one of two places. Bernie and I talk about the reasons why people are needy in relationships and how to deal with them....
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I need some desperate help in order to save my relationship with my girlfriend. We have been together for a little over 3yrs and our relationship seems to built around our ability to take care of each other on business. We both have come out of bad marriages and when we met we both fell hard for each other. I have one 20 yr old son and an older stepdaughter, while Kalima has a 17yr handicap daughter a 14yr old daughter who lives with her father and a 5yr and 11yr old. I thought I was ready to jump back into family life after my wife passed in 2014, but I have let my so called life experience cause me to become complacent. On top of that I have been drinking more than usual, and it has caused a great strain on our relationship as well as my children. She thinks that I don’t love her enough to care, but I felt that my 24yrs of marriage should speak for itself….WRONG. I need to learn how to be a better partner and live a long life with her, somehow I just can’t seem to figure it out. We have had two sessions of relationship counseling but I allowed my drinking to be an excuse not to go back. And even if she may not want to participate right now I feel if she sees me trying it will help to resolve some of our differences. Also after 18yrs with one company I was let go in 2015. I work as an independent contractor for a courier service so I spend alot of time driving.
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My name Tom Dorsey
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