As an African American Christian woman, societal dating norms promote that women should wait to be foun’t – that proverbial Boaz & Ruth situation (read the story of Ruth & Boaz in the book of Ruth in the bible). But what happens when you’ve waited…and waited…and waited…and ain’t been foun’t yet? Is it ok to tilt the odds in your favor…like Naomi told Ruth to do to get Boaz’s attention?
Do traditional dating values align with new Millennial values?
See how Chiereme [chair-reh-me], 26 is breaking away from her long-held traditional views on being foun’t and taking control of her dating-destiny while still maintaining her African American Christian values. Hear her story…in this pilot episode of the Millennial Dating Chronicles.
Define Dating vs. Being in a Relationship: Should Single Women Date Multiple People?
I wish the art and skill of dating were promoted more in the Christian community. I've heard the church's traditional argument that promotes courting over dating. But I believe dating is a legit intermediary stage that comes before you start courting. So...how should...
When is it Time To Tell Your Boyfriend to Piss or Get Off the Pot?
How long should it take for a man to decide he wants to put a ring on it. This question confounds many women. And men too. There are two factors a woman should consider when determining how long she should wait. But there are more important factors that determine...
What About Prenups? Is that Christian?
They didn't have prenups back in the bible days. So...is it okay to get a prenup nowadays...especially if you're older and more established? Interesting question. With as many marriages that have ended in divorce since the 1980s, the notion of having a 'til death do...
Should a Girlfriend do Wifely Duties? How Much is Too Much?
The young lady wrote in and asked us a question. She wanted to know her if it was appropriate for a girlfriend to do wifely duties, such as lookout for a man who was possibly down on his luck (i.e., unemployed), for her boyfriend who she was currently living with....
How Do I Get on One Accord with My Girlfriend?
A guy wanted to know how to get on one accord with his girlfriend? Great question. Noble pursuit. But please know...this elusive "one accord" that he seeks is not a destination. It a process. Bernie and I discuss the two steps to achieve this 'one-accord-ness' (I just...
Neediness! What to do if Your Mate is Too Needy.
Everyone wants to be needed. But nobody like a needy person. But before you deal with their neediness, you have to find out if it's coming from one of two places. Bernie and I talk about the reasons why people are needy in relationships and how to deal with them....
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