#WednesdayWisdom #018: Set Boundaries for Yourself on SM in Order to Protect Your Self-esteem, Expectations, and Relationship

What’s your social media habits like?

What’s going down in your DM? (that’s Direct Messaging…for those who don’t know)

Are you living out your alter ego online…or keepin’ it real? How many pictures do you take…just to post one photo on Instagram?

Last night I went to a young adult event called The Tuesday Night Experience #EvolutionTakeover, to listened to @JAMarshallJr talk about the impact of social media (SM) on self-esteem, emotions, and relationships.

Honestly, I didn’t think I was going to get anything from it. I was just there to show love to my friends in the #Evolution young adult group. But the points @JAMarshallJr was making were some serious food for thought. I even took notes (and I rarely take notes when someone is speaking).

So for today’s #WednesdayWisdom, I’m going to share 11 questions…some are his and some are mine questions that were sparked by his. Judge for yourself whether your SM experiences and interactions are causing you, your relationship, or future relationship unrealistic expectations and emotional distress.

1. Is who you are on SM the same as who you feel you are on the inside? #publicpersona #vs #privatelie #highpublicesteem #vs #lowselfesteem
2. Do you spend more time editing your images and posts…than you do editing your character? #photofilters #photoshopyourlife #edityourcharacter #filteryourtounge
3. Are you spending more time documenting your experiences…than experiencing your experiences? #selfies #waitwhatdidImiss
4. Do you put more time into looking at other people’s timeline…than you do experiencing your own life in real time? #staythumbscrolling #thumbscrollingatparties #thumbscrollingatdinner
5. Do you get depressed, jealous, or envious looking at other people’s happy pictures posts on their timelines? #hateronthehush #butyoumadtho #sheaintallthat #shethinkshecute
6. Do the manufactured perceptions on SM influence your beliefs of what is true and real? #virginremi #buttinjections #breastimplants
7. Are your expectations of what realistic in your relationship based on the freaky video posted on SM? #worldStar #caribbeandancehall #poledancingacrobats #twerkvideos
8. Are your on-line relationships or your interactions on DM threatening your current relationship? #sexting #oldboos #Iusetohaveacrushonyou #areyouandyourwifestilltogether
9. Is SM setting your expectations about what you want somebody to do for you…but you’re failing to understand what’s fully expected from you? #Idonotcook #fathersdontbabysit #sexaintfree #thecostiscommittment
10. Is SM setting your expectations about what you want somebody to do for you…but you’re character disqualifies you from being the person worthy of such consideration. #inappropriatetexts #itsjustFacebook #itsjustflirting #sextingisntcheating
11. Is SM giving you a false representation of what to pray to God for in a mate? #talldarkandhandsome #sixfigurenigga #38-#24-#40 #redbone #lighteyes #goodhair

#WednesdayWisdom

Set boundaries for yourself on SM in order to protect your self-esteem, expectations, and your relationship.

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