SUBMISSION… is one of those dirty words in the bible that make women cringe…and distort their top lip. It triggers a guttural reaction. If you’re a woman, it’s likely, you’re reading this article to see how wrong I am…and thus, slay me in the comments section below.

And I understand why the notion of a wife submitting to a husband is grotesque to some. For three generations (60+ years), the traditional marriage structure in the African American community has decayed. It’s darn-near obsolete. It’s been replaced by single parent households, co-parenting situations, and same-sex marriages. For 60+ years, women have seen and experienced their grandmothers’, mothers’, and aunts-and-em’ run their families. During this time, men were truly…’rolling stones’. So…the idea that a man should be knighted as an authority-figure to submit to…a position he did not earn nor deserve…is absolutely ridiculous.

And for single women looking for a good quality Christian single man, the pickings have been slim for decades. Finding one with comparable accomplishments, who hasn’t dated too many people you know…is like going to a Nordstrom’s Rack shoe sale on Saturday night trying to find your size. You’re looking for a 9, but all they have left on the rack is a size 6 ½”…or the ugly shoes nobody wants.

Coming to Terms with Submission

But submission is a commandment that’s in the bible. So…if you’re a Christian wife, or want to be one, you have to come to terms with submitting to your husband. Not whether to do it…but how you do it.

Every Christian woman I’ve ever talked to has her own way of how she comes to terms with submitting. And every way is different. Based on me talking to these women…and me being married for 18 years, I’ve mastered this submission-thing. My wife submits to me as the head of our household…even though she’s 5-years older than me and has always made more money than me.

How did I get her to want to do it? Allow me to share with you who I am…so you can judge for yourself if I know what I’m talking about. Then, let me explain to the men three sure-fire way to make your wife…or future wife…want to submit to you. And if you’re a woman reading this, tell me if you agree or disagree with me in the comments.

3 Sure-Fire Ways to Make Your Wife Want to Submit to You

1. Have a Plan. When you proposed to your wife, you were essentially proposing your plan for your lives together. Whatever you said while on bended-knee, that’s what she’s saying “yes” to. So… you had better have a plan for how to make that happen-captain. Don’t return home from your honeymoon and be like, “Okay, we’re married now. Let me know if you need anything. Love youuuu!”

2. Your planning is more important than your plan. !IMPORTANT! Women ain’t stupid. They can manage their lives themselves. They can tell, by what you say and what you do, if your plan is gonna work or not. They also have very strong opinions on what’s wrong with it, how to fix it, and how to fix you. So…do not reject her input or dismiss their opinions because you’re too wedded to your plan. In your planning, you must include their input, expertise, and opinions about your plans, and you. For, their ideas might be better than yours.

3. Address her interests in your planning…before she does. If a woman knows you have her best interest in mind, she will be willing to trust you and follow your lead. Therefore, in your planning, make sure you address her needs, concerns, fears, and interest…before she does. You bring it up…not her! You don’t have to have the solutions to everything. But, addressing them in your planning before she does shows her that you understand and are concerned about the things that are important to her. If she feels you understand her concerns, then she’ll trust you and be willing to follow your lead.

#WednesdayWisdom

It’s a lot of work. But if you have a plan for how you’re going to create the life you proposed to her, include her input in your planning, and address her concerns before she does, then you’ve created the sure-fire environment that will make your wife want to submit to you.

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