The notion that you have to have everything all together in order to be a good spouse is a lie from the pit of hell. Don’t nobody have their life all together…to the point where they can be a good spouse.
The key is working on getting your life together…over time. And that takes growth…growth that you go through together as you build and develop your marriage over time.
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3 Reasons Why I Agree Mary J. Blige and Husband Shouldn’t Have Opposite Sex Friends
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The Day Dr. Myles Munroe Died was the Day a True Leader was Born
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Effective Communication is Good, But Humility Trumps All
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5 Exercises that will Build a Man’s Confidence with Women
A single black woman on Facebook posted an encounter she had with two separate men. It lit up a firestorm of men vs. women in the comments. Let's call her Nicole. Two men from Nicole's past, in two separate conversations, both claimed that they were interested in her...
I’m Willing to Compromise, So Stop Trying To Change Me!
This is kinda personal. I scarcely put my private marital issues out there. And this issue my wife and I are going through is on-going — meaning, I don’t know what the outcome is going to be. But grown men aren’t afraid to share their story mid-test…before it becomes...
A Strategy for Getting Your Man to Open Up Again; It Really Works
There he goes again! You bring up an issue about your relationship that yall need to seriously discuss, and this bamma disappears emotionally…like the friendly ghost. Rolling his eyes. Sucking his teeth. And, you are yet again...
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I need some desperate help in order to save my relationship with my girlfriend. We have been together for a little over 3yrs and our relationship seems to built around our ability to take care of each other on business. We both have come out of bad marriages and when we met we both fell hard for each other. I have one 20 yr old son and an older stepdaughter, while Kalima has a 17yr handicap daughter a 14yr old daughter who lives with her father and a 5yr and 11yr old. I thought I was ready to jump back into family life after my wife passed in 2014, but I have let my so called life experience cause me to become complacent. On top of that I have been drinking more than usual, and it has caused a great strain on our relationship as well as my children. She thinks that I don’t love her enough to care, but I felt that my 24yrs of marriage should speak for itself….WRONG. I need to learn how to be a better partner and live a long life with her, somehow I just can’t seem to figure it out. We have had two sessions of relationship counseling but I allowed my drinking to be an excuse not to go back. And even if she may not want to participate right now I feel if she sees me trying it will help to resolve some of our differences. Also after 18yrs with one company I was let go in 2015. I work as an independent contractor for a courier service so I spend alot of time driving.
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My name Tom Dorsey
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