Reading this morning about trust…came across a phrase that blew my mind! It reminded me of some of my past experiences in church. It also reminded me about the expectations couples in their relationships. Had to share.
The value that others accord members for their position – informally or in a group, organization, or society – is the member’s status. Esteem…[is] the value accorded them by others for their personal qualities. Many noblemen of high status lacked such personal qualities and were held in low esteem by those who know them personally or by reputation. Many ordinary folks who lack [are of low] status could be [highly] esteemed by others for their personal value.
Conflict abounds…when the esteem and status of the members are not correlated. A group will be in conflict…when high status members are low in esteem; and when highly esteemed members are relegated to positions that accord them low status. (Bass & Bass, 2008)
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Wow Heath! I am having that VERY conversation (in its own words and way) with a comrade of mind who is experiencing marital challenges. THIS is at the root of the challenge! Thanks for sharing!
WOW. I was just reading it on the humble and thought I’d share. The Lord must know what he’s doing!