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AND IT BEGINS. The Iowa Caucuses officially started the 2016 race for the White House. And here comes the full frontal assault of the 2016 political blizzard…poised to hit the country worse than the Jonas Blizzard of January 2016.
Actually, I love following politics…although I don’t write about it – being that this is a relationship blog and all. So somehow…my deranged mine can find a way to relate the two in an interesting way (watch me work).
QUESTION: All these candidates have the same goal. But their backgrounds and value systems have led them to pursue it in different ways. What if you had to describe the way you pursue goals in your relationship as one of the top four candidates? Who would you be? Would you be:
A. Donald Trump: The two of you have enough money, resources, and influence to pursue any goal you want. But now you perceive a problem that’s only the two of you feel you can handle best. So you put your money, resources, and influence into action. In so doing, haters call the two of you arrogant, prideful, and divisive. But you maintain undeterred…because you know that’s just confidence.
B. Hilary Clinton: The two of you have worked to support one spouse’s goal. Now it’s time for the two of you to band together again in support of the other spouse’s goal. You’ve had some setbacks, some controversies, and no shortage of haters. But the two of you are sticking to guns and supporting each other as you both press forward to pursue the common family goals.
C. Ted Cruz: The two of you believe in the strict conservative orthodoxy of the roles and responsibilities in your relationship. And you preach it loud and proud…not caring who doesn’t agree with what some call a controversial position. You’re trusting that…your strict adherence to those values will allow you to accomplish whatever goal God gives you to accomplish.
D. Bernie Sanders: The two of you have seen the blatant injustice in the world. And you can’t stand it. You take a radical stance and put yourselves on the front lines. You’re unafraid to call out those who you believe have done wrong to the less fortunate or to those who can’t protect themselves. And now…your goal is to spearhead a movement to correcting those wrongs.
Are you surprised which one you are? I was. So which one were you?
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Value the differences in how your mate pursues your common relationship goals. A shared pursuit breeds respect and acceptance in your relationship; and often leads to a better realized goal than solely pursuing it your way.
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