Before we can improve upon our leadership in our relationships, we must better understand what leadership is and what it is not! Otherwise, we might start doing stupid-stuff, crazy-stuff, rude-stuff…and pass it off as leadership.
Sometimes, when trying to lead, we men might think certain behavior is leadership…like insisting on a certain course of action regardless of the opposition – or at least I did. Or, certain behaviors that look and feel like leadership…when improperly executed…couldn’t be farther from it. And what ends up happening is, with each attempt at leadership, she questions your judgment more and more…and trusts you less and less.
So allow me, if you please, to shed further light on what leadership is by explaining what leadership is not. I wrote an article So What is Leadership??? that explain what leadership is. So I’m not going to go over the ins and outs of what leadership is…other than to give you the working definition that we are using to define leadership. Read that article first…so we’ll be on the same page. Then return here and start reading this 5-part series on the 5 Things Leadership is Not.
- Leadership is Not Character-Specific Pt. 1
- Leadership is Not Person-Specific (Authority) Pt. 2
- Leadership is Not Direction Specific Pt. 3
- Leadership is Not Outcome Specific Pt. 4
- Leadership is Not Outcome Specific Pt. 5
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For example, if my kids disobey me, I can discipline them by taking away privileges, spanking them, or restricting certain activities. Why? Because I have authority over them. They KNOW I am the authority. In an organization, a supervisor or manager can take disciplinary action against an employee who doesn’t follow the certain rules. Employees KNOW who’s the authority. What I’m saying is people with real authority can implement it and expect coorperation and correct those who are non-compliant. How does this fit in with the command for husbands to love their wives?
The above post was supposed to be a response to another article. Please disregard.