Dear Mr. & Mrs. Robin and Paula,

This separation is very unfortunate. Robin, you’re coming off the best year of your career. And Paula, you’ve reached major A-list acclaim with your acting career. You are both about to celebrate your much deserved success…alone. Having journeyed together for so long, you have now arrived at your destination only to experience it without the person who was on the journey with you…cheering for you…pushing you on.

As you contemplate your futures, consider this question: which is more important to you, the journey or the destination? I’m sure when you both started on this journey, you didn’t think your success would come at the cost of your marriage. I wonder if you would change your journey if when you arrived at your destination you still wanted to be together. Or, was the destination worth the journey…even if it cost you your marriage? Or maybe it’s not that complicated. Maybe your marriage isn’t strong enough…and is crumbling under the weight of your collective success.

If you two high school sweet-hearts could go back a few years and trade-in your world renowned success for your marriage, peace, and family…would you do it?

I am pro-marriage. I want you two to work it out. Because you have a darling son. You both have successful acting/singing careers. And you have a great love story that dates back to high school. You two potentially have one of the greatest Hollywood love stories that could ever be told. But now you are on the verge of having one of the most redundant Hollywood divorce stories ever told. And for what? For what?! Oh that’s right…money and success.

For all of our sakes, try and work it out. You have the money and means to create a new destination…one where both of you are old and happily married to each other. You have the means and resources to chart a new journey…one that binds you closer together instead of pulling you apart.

Seek professional counseling to walk you through this…privately. Get prepare to humble yourself.

Whatever forces are rivaling your marriage, know that they are temporary…and they will never outlast love and family.

It’s love that never fails. It’s love that forgives a multitude of wrong. It’s love that covers all things.

So let love rule your decisions…not external factors outside your marriage.

Apologize to each other…and be prepared to forgive each other too.

This work is hard. But the reward is a renewed love and admiration the two of you once felt back in high school. I wish you all the best…and long happy days ahead.

Heath Wiggins
HisLeadershipHerTrust.com

ps. Check out our Family Bootcamp for Couples, a teambuilding-based obstacle course specifically to teach couples how to obtain a  happy, loving, trusting, Christian relationship.

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