The notion that you have to have everything all together in order to be a good spouse is a lie from the pit of hell. Don’t nobody have their life all together…to the point where they can be a good spouse.
The key is working on getting your life together…over time. And that takes growth…growth that you go through together as you build and develop your marriage over time.
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Differences in Male/Female Brains: 3 Reasons for Fledgling Relationships
I was talking to a young woman about her fledgling relationship. “He just be doin’ stupid stuff! None of it makes sense!”, she lamented. She went on to say that she feels she always has to correct him and tell him what to do”. I responded: “…You want him to think like...
Which is Better: To Be Needed or To Be Wanted?
I saw the movie ‘The Best Man Holiday’ last weekend [non-spoiler notification]. In the movie, there was a conversation between Jordan (played by Nia Long) and her new boo Brian (played by Eddie Cibrian) that got my attention. Brian was in his feeling about how Jordan...
FOR MEN: Thanksgiving Thankfulness Project (10 mins.)
Project MEN...here's a project you can do to make this a special Thanksgiving for your mate: Take a blank piece of paper and fold it in half (preferably in Landscape orientation) On the outside, write “Top 3 Reasons Why I’m Thankful for You” On the inside, list the...
VIDEO: EMPATHY…The Power of Outrospection
In a previous article, I wrote about deciding whether to leave or stay in the relationship. The determining factor, I asked, was "How empathetic are his decision making and interactions with you?" Digging deeper, I found out that empathy plays an even more critical...
To Stay or To Leave Him? That Is The Question
Let’s call her Tara. Tara emailed me in response to an article I wrote entitled, How to Rebuild Trust After It’s Been Broken. Her man broke her trust (she didn't go into details). She’s upset because he’s trying to make her hurry up and ‘get over it’. She also...
How to Rebuild Trust After It’s Been Broken
In order for Steven to rebuild her trust, there must have been trust to begin with. But he done messed up! Now he’s trying to figure out how to rebuild trust. Steven was supposed to be at happy hour with some co-workers (plural)….so he told his fiancée, Tracey. But...
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I need some desperate help in order to save my relationship with my girlfriend. We have been together for a little over 3yrs and our relationship seems to built around our ability to take care of each other on business. We both have come out of bad marriages and when we met we both fell hard for each other. I have one 20 yr old son and an older stepdaughter, while Kalima has a 17yr handicap daughter a 14yr old daughter who lives with her father and a 5yr and 11yr old. I thought I was ready to jump back into family life after my wife passed in 2014, but I have let my so called life experience cause me to become complacent. On top of that I have been drinking more than usual, and it has caused a great strain on our relationship as well as my children. She thinks that I don’t love her enough to care, but I felt that my 24yrs of marriage should speak for itself….WRONG. I need to learn how to be a better partner and live a long life with her, somehow I just can’t seem to figure it out. We have had two sessions of relationship counseling but I allowed my drinking to be an excuse not to go back. And even if she may not want to participate right now I feel if she sees me trying it will help to resolve some of our differences. Also after 18yrs with one company I was let go in 2015. I work as an independent contractor for a courier service so I spend alot of time driving.
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My name Tom Dorsey
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