Have you ever heard someone say,
“Relationships take work!”
What the heck does that mean? When I was single, that’s all I kept hearing from older couples…and divorcees. I had a job…I worked out at a gym…I knew what work was. But I didn’t know what kind of work I was in for until I jumped to the other side of the broom.
Sixteen years later, I now know exactly what “work” means…because I’ve had to put a lot of it in over the years. In fairness to my wife, Bernie (BerNadette), so has she. So, for the first time ever on His Leadership her Trust, in an audio recording, Bernie and I are going to tell you exactly what “relationships take work” really means.
To set the scene, I rolled up on her in the closet while she was getting ready for work. We talked about what work is, our personal views on what work we each did, how our work is like the work Christ did when he died for us, and the reward that awaits you if you stick it out and hang in there.
Listen and enjoy.
What kind of work do you have to do in your relationship?
ps: please let me know what you think about doing future audios with Bernie and me.
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My Lord!! we’ve had this talk. I’m in a relationship, but I’m LIVING SINGLE. SMH! Well this ain’t WORKING, because I’m clearly not there. I love the audio by the way. Your transparency is WONDERFUL! You two are amazing! I’m so glad you’re family.
NeNe
Bro & Sis Wiggins, I must let you know that I truly enjoyed your discussion on “Work in a relationship.” It was so interesting and informative. I believe that using the example of how Jesus could have come down off the cross except that he was thinking of us instead of what he was going through, has given a lot of people something to think about when it comes to compromising in a marriage. You are doing a wonderful job and I ask that you all keep up the good work because it is so needed in this day and time. Will keep you in our prayers. Sister Juliet Wilson
Thanks you Sis. Wilson. We appreciate your prayers. Tell Bro. Wilson we said hello.
Fixing relationships may not be easy and it’s often made harder because both parties tend to believe that they are right. It’s worth looking at the problem as if you were the other person because this can sometimes give you a better idea what the real cause of the argument might be. I’ve always found that if you really want to fix the relationship you’ll be prepared to try and look at your part in the argument a bit more objectively. If you still think that you were right and the other person was wrong, but you don’t want the bad feelings to hang around, you might want to consider apologizing for the way you responded to whatever was said.
I learned a lot of this by reading this ebook i found surfing the internet Title
The one thing that it talks about a lot is that it causes a permanent breakdown in a relationship is the reluctance of both parties to admit that they were wrong. Everybody has arguments, the reason some people manage to stop that argument from creating a permanent rift, is that at least one person is ready to say they are sorry. If you are not on speaking terms at the moment why not try sending a card and tell the person you’re sorry for your part in the argument. Sometimes the only way to fix a relationship is be the first one to say that you are sorry.
Re: Audio on work
I absolutely loved and agreed with both of your responses on the required work that each individual has to do in order to make a marraige “Work”. After, 18 years of marraige I can look back and see the times when neither of us compromised or put the other persons needs before our own. It was friction all the time. Now years later we operate by putting each other’s needs & desires before our own. Boy, oh boy it’s a blissful marraige that consistently calls for adjustments. God has truly taken the forefront in our marraige and we continue to blossom. Thanks so much for sharing this audio.
Theresa Hall
我々は、それが本当に手元に現在のトピックへの関連性を持っていないものであることがわかりました。それはあなたがそれがあるだけの方法ではなく厥たくない場合であっても、それはとにかく起こる悲しいかな発生するもののこれらの種類を許可するように楽しませることができます。
私は多くの人々は、この特定の主題に興味を持っていると私はまた、それらのいずれかをイムを拒否傾けることを認識しています。 youllのは、このトピックに関しては追加の議論を見つけるたびに、単にそれが魅力的な追加となり、私はあなたが来内容に関する記述し、正確に何を想像することができます。あなたも、複数の対応する資料を配布する場合、私は最も確かにそれについて通過できるようにしたいと思いますように、私に通知します。キャプチャコードは何