Previously on 7 Days of Sex:
“…This 2012, 9-episode Lifetime series featured two average married couples…Their experiment was to have sex for 7 days and – if they wanted to – renew their vows at the end.”
“…So that gave me a great idea. Yep…you guessed it. My wife and I should do it. All I have to do now is convince Bernie.”
“…I thought I’d surprise her and dust the family room.” “…She said I deserved a treat.”
“…I took that opportunity to tell her about the show 7 Days of Sex…” “…To my surprise, she was excited to do it.”
“…day 1 began immediately.”
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Day 2 – The Emerging Pattern
I had to volunteer that church tonight. I knew I wouldn’t be home till after 11:00 pm. And after a certain sleepiness level, I know that Bernie is too tired for sex. So I was surprised when I came home around 11:15 and she was still wide awake. We talked for a while before we headed upstairs to bed. Now it’s after midnight…and we both are beat. But we push ahead anyway. It was enjoyable. But we both were so tired. A pattern was emerging.
Day 3 – The Elbow
When we woke up that Saturday morning, we had a busy day ahead of us. So Bernie suggested that we kick off day 3 with a morning session. I felt like, if we did that, then we would just be doing it to ‘check-the-box’ — to say we did it. But I wanted this experiment to be more than just an item on today’s to-do list. I should have heeded her suggestion. My utopian vision for sex later that night was everything but utopic.
After a long day, we went to a birthday party that night. We stayed till the end…and even helped clean up. It was close to 1:00 am when we got home. We both wished we could just crash. That’s when she hit me with ‘I told you so’. I couldn’t do anything but agree.
The sex was so awkward it was comedic. See-what-had-happen-was…I banged my left elbow at the birthday party. It was fine during the party. But by the time I got home, it was so sore I could barely move my arm…or put any weight on it. So we get in the bed. I tried to roll over. Bam! Pain shot up my arm. OUCH! I collapse on the bed. After the third try, I tried to crawl over to Bernie’s side…OUCH! I collapse sideways on top of Bernie. I tried to maneuver in position…OUCH! I try to posture-up…OUCH! Every position I tried to get into…OUCH! I never knew how critical one’s elbow is to having sex
My transitions were so painful, it was killing whatever semblance of a mood that existed at 1:30 in the freaking morning. Furthermore, each transition forced blood from the part of my body that required it…to the pain in my sore elbow. So it was even harder for me to concentrate and maintain a sufficient enough erection. Meanwhile, Bernie is just lying, like O!!!!M!!!!G!!!!! It was as sad spectacle…indeed.
I’ll spare you any further embarrassing Abbott and Costello details. Let’s just say, we technically had sex that night.
On to day 4…PLEASE!!!
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NEXT TIME on 7 Days of Sex:
“…around 11:00, she rolled over to go to sleep. “Oh no!”, she exasperatedly exclaimed. “What…you forgot we’re supposed to have sex?” I responded. This led to the beginning of a much needed conversation about sex and its role in our marriage.”
“…I saw we weren’t going to resolve it that night. It was too late. And at that point, I wasn’t in the mood to check that box.”
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Keep me posted Brother…..with children, I don’t know about that one:)
Veanie, It can be done. See my response to Allison’s post below. You and Mr. Cook can work it out. LOL
Great post! Been thinking about aspects of this . . . laughing at Davina’s comment! As a fellow parent, it is a challenge in a house with kids! Not impossible, but a 007 challenge! LOLOL!
Of the 3 episodes I watched, there was at least 1 couple in every episode that had children. And they ranged from 1 – 18. They made it work. It was tricky tho. One couple had to buy a lock for their bedroom door and shared bathroom to prevent their 8 yr old son from coming in their room. It helped the mom deal with her attachment issues. And it helped the son learn that he can self sooth and stay in his room without having to come run to mom all the time. So it doable…tricky…but doable.
Yes that was Matthew!!!!
I think it’s great for couples to work on their intimacy while addressing other relationship issues. Like you said sex doesn’t make a marriage, but it certainly helps. And this is something that my husband and I have always kept in mind from the beginning.
Yes it does K. Elizabeth. This is also proving to require us to spend quality time together…not just in the bedroom but leading up to the bedroom.
Now this heading has me reading! LOL. Now that’s what I’m talking about – EVERYDAY!
LOL. The Wiggins have to do some out of the box things to improve our marriage. The regular marriage workshop stuff won’t cut it over here. We’re trying to take it to the next level. And it’s working.
As you know, I am currently single and struggling to be satisfied. I’m a Lady in Waiting, However, I enjoy reading your blog and have encouraged many of my married friends to subscribe. I’m so proud of you and Bernie. I Pray God blesses me with a Love like yours.
Thanks Felicia. I appreciate you support. Praying that your waiting status will change soon.
i think im going to talk to hubby about trying this. only thing is we got 5 kids and a grandma in the house. on top of that he works 10 to 12 hour hour days 5 days a week sometimes more that in it self is gon b a problem.