What started off as an effort to clean my office turned into 7 Days of Sex.
I guess that’s what happens when you’re channel surfing around 11:00 pm. See-what-had-happen-was…while scrolling down the viewer guide, I came across the title of a show called 7 Days of Sex. First, I checked the channel to see if it was on Cinemax. Since it was a Lifetime channel, I figured it was safe to see what this show was about.
I was literally captivated! It was as adve
rtised…couples having sex for 7 days straight. This 2012, 9-episode series featured two average married couples…with average married couple problems. Their experiment was to have sex for 7 days and – if they wanted to – renew their vows at the end. But what made it so interesting was how the 7-day march to the bedroom brought up all these issues that had gone overlooked and unaddressed in their marriage. I watched back to back episodes and dvr’d a third one.
So that gave me a great idea. Yep…you guessed it. My wife and I should do it (pun intended). Apparently, this was a popular undertaking by a lot of married bloggers in 2012. But I didn’t want this to be a challenge…like many others referred to it. A challenge to have sex for 7 days — for the sake of having sex — is not appealing to me. For, sex alone does not a happy marriage make. However, sex inside a good relationship makes a great marriage. I want a great marriage! So we’re going to do this as an experiment. The difference being, I’m going to track our relational dynamics throughout this experiment to see if there is any improvement in our relationship at the end.
All I have to do now is convince Bernie (BerNadette), my wife of 16 years.
Day 1
It started off the next day. I had been meaning to clean my office. Over the years, it had gotten so cluttered with papers and other miscellaneous junk. So on my day off work, I de-cluttered, filed, vacuumed, and dusted my office.
Then I recalled Bernie, mentioning to me that she hates dusting. So while in the cleaning mood, I thought I’d surprise her and dust the family room. Well…that expanded to dusting and cleaning the entire main floor, our bedroom, and master bathroom. I then washed and folded all the clothes. I was aiming for some serious brownie-points.
So when she came home, I was eager to show her all the work I had done. She was surprised and happy. She said I deserved a treat. She was thinking about getting me some Ben & Jerry’s ice cream. I was thinking about getting me ‘some’!
So up to the boudoir chambers we went. We laid there and talked for a while. I took that opportunity to tell her about the TV show 7 Days of Sex and suggested we give it a try. To my surprise, she was excited to do it. She even felt it might somehow help our relationship. So day 1 began immediately.
That night was a great kick off. She was happy! I was happy! We were happy! Afterwards, our happy-selves watched Scandal together. Day 1 in the books!
Would you do the 7 Days of Sex Experiment?
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NEXT TIME on 7 Days of Sex:
“…My utopian vision for sex later that night was everything but utopic.”
“…It was close to 1:00 am when we got home. We both wished we could just crash. That’s when she hit me with ‘I told you so’.”
“…The sex was so awkward it was comedic.“
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Follow our progress daily. I will post updates from the previous night’s episode.
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Keep me posted Brother…..with children, I don’t know about that one:)
Veanie, It can be done. See my response to Allison’s post below. You and Mr. Cook can work it out. LOL
Great post! Been thinking about aspects of this . . . laughing at Davina’s comment! As a fellow parent, it is a challenge in a house with kids! Not impossible, but a 007 challenge! LOLOL!
Of the 3 episodes I watched, there was at least 1 couple in every episode that had children. And they ranged from 1 – 18. They made it work. It was tricky tho. One couple had to buy a lock for their bedroom door and shared bathroom to prevent their 8 yr old son from coming in their room. It helped the mom deal with her attachment issues. And it helped the son learn that he can self sooth and stay in his room without having to come run to mom all the time. So it doable…tricky…but doable.
Yes that was Matthew!!!!
I think it’s great for couples to work on their intimacy while addressing other relationship issues. Like you said sex doesn’t make a marriage, but it certainly helps. And this is something that my husband and I have always kept in mind from the beginning.
Yes it does K. Elizabeth. This is also proving to require us to spend quality time together…not just in the bedroom but leading up to the bedroom.
Now this heading has me reading! LOL. Now that’s what I’m talking about – EVERYDAY!
LOL. The Wiggins have to do some out of the box things to improve our marriage. The regular marriage workshop stuff won’t cut it over here. We’re trying to take it to the next level. And it’s working.
As you know, I am currently single and struggling to be satisfied. I’m a Lady in Waiting, However, I enjoy reading your blog and have encouraged many of my married friends to subscribe. I’m so proud of you and Bernie. I Pray God blesses me with a Love like yours.
Thanks Felicia. I appreciate you support. Praying that your waiting status will change soon.
i think im going to talk to hubby about trying this. only thing is we got 5 kids and a grandma in the house. on top of that he works 10 to 12 hour hour days 5 days a week sometimes more that in it self is gon b a problem.