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#WednesdayWisdom #028: Relationship Leaders Set the Standard, Exemplify Them, and Hold Everyone Accountable to Them
The story goes like this... James and Melissa (Mel) were in year 0 of their marriage. They had only been married a few months. One issue they had to deal with was how James was going to handle his past relationships with women…many who Mel knew. After much discussion...
#WednesdayWisdom #027: It’s Unacceptable for Women to Compete for a Man…Unless this Happens
I saw the shift take place in the 90’s. In fact, I was apart of it. I went to college in the late 80’s. Back then, girls had all the power. Guys would clamor for their attention. Girls would sit back…pick and choose whoever they wanted to date. If you weren’t tall...
#WednesdayWisdom #026: “Happy Father’s Day…Mom!” Should Single Mothers be Honored on Father’s Day?
One Father’s Day morning, Lil’ Joe gave me a Father’s Day card at church. I was so thankful! He was 10 years old back then. And when Jasmyn was 20, she gave me this beautifully hand-written Father’s Day card. I was so humbled. But I couldn’t help but wonder if Lil’...
#WednesdayWisdom #025: 7 Super Important Non-Traditional Things Single Men Need to Know in Looking For a Woman
I’m pro-relationships. As a relationship consultant for 16 years, I coach, teach, and cheer for successful happy relationships every day. But in 2016, for single men…picking a woman is not a top priority. Not like it used to be in the late 1940’s thru the 1970’s. The...
#WednedsayWisdom #024: Love Steph & Ayesha Curry. But Let’s Not Exalt a Couple’s Marriage Above a Status it Has Not Earned
For a year now, the media has been lavishing high-praise on the loving marriage of Steph and Ayesha Curry. That’s wonderful. They promote positive images of black marriages…something we desperately need to contrast these ratchet wives/ex-wives/girlfriend/side-chick...
#WednesdayWisdom #023: 5 Things God-Fearing Families Should Do About Obama’s Transgendered Bathroom Policy
God created man and woman. He created them to have sex with each other as husband and wife. He called that marriage. But then man decides…I want to have sex with my wife and another woman too. God called that adultery, or in some cases…an orgy. Then man decided…I...
#WednesdayWisdom #022: Why There Will Never Be A Movie About Prince
I’m a huge Prince fan. His surprising death hit me hard. As the news coverage unfolded, I was wondering, “I wonder who’s going to play Prince in the biopic movie about his life story.” I think Bruno Mars could do it. But I like Jussie Smollett (Jamal from Empire)...
#WednesdayWisdom #021: If Jay-Z Actually Cheated on Beyoncé, It’s Because He Didn’t Cock-Block Himself
I don’t know if Jay-Z cheated on Beyoncé or not. But if…Jay-Z cheated on Beyoncé…if you can’t be satisfied with one of the baddest chicks on the face of this earth…then there’s something inherently wrong with you. Truth be told, there’s something inherently wrong with...
#WednesdayWisdom #020: Black Women Are So Tired of Waiting for Black Men to Get Their ‘ISH Together
Event #1: I was at a restaurant supporting my friend Tiffani’s blog launch. There were a good number of single women there. So…Tiff shouts me out and shouts out my Relationship Bootcamp business I run. “Hey Ladies, I’m going to go to Heath’s Relationship Bootcamp for...
#WednesdayWisdom #019: Successful Communication at Work Doesn’t Mean You’ll Successfully Communicate in Your Relationship
The way people communicate in their relationships has a lot to do with the way we were raised and what we value as necessary information to make decisions. But another area…that’s sometimes overlooked…is our profession. Most of us received some kind of training at...
#WednesdayWisdom #018: Set Boundaries for Yourself on SM in Order to Protect Your Self-esteem, Expectations, and Relationship
What’s your social media habits like? What’s going down in your DM? (that’s Direct Messaging…for those who don’t know) Are you living out your alter ego online…or keepin’ it real? How many pictures do you take…just to post one photo on Instagram? Last night I went to...
#WednesdayWisdom #017: Israel Houghton Responds to Pictures of He and His New Girlfriend Making-out
Israel Houghton responds to pictures of he and his new girlfriend...The Real's, Adrienne Bailon...making out at a beach in Mexico. #WednesdayWisdom When your relationship is facing public controversy, clear and open communication, with an attitude of "WHAT?", is the...
#WednesdayWisdom #016: What Do Presidential Candidates and NCAA Basketball Have in Common with Successful Relationships
Let’s talk sports and politics. It looks like the race for the presidency is on its way to a collision-course between Trump vs. Clinton. At the same time, the NCAA basketball race is about to get March-maddening. With all the candidates and teams represented, I’m sure...
#WednesdayWisdom #015: Domestic Violence in the Church Can’t Always Be Prayed Away…
I already completed today’s #WednesdayWisdom. All I had to do was proofread and post. Then I saw this report about gospel singer, James Fortune’s, guilty plea to third degree felony assault for assaulting his wife back in 2014. Given my last rant about Israel...
#WednesdayWisdom #014: CHRISTIANS: Stop Being Afraid to Judge Others According to God’s Principles and Truths
Last week, I posted a Facebook article about gospel singer, Israel Houghton’s, divorce from his wife of 20 years. I commented about my disappointment that he didn’t fight hard enough to save his marriage. I’m not going to reiterate my position (you can read my...
#WednesdayWisdom #013: MEN…Don’t Be Eaten Alive By A Strong Black Woman
After Jill Scott's said this, every man needs to read the book His Leadership Her Trust if you don't want to be EATEN ALIVE by a strong black woman. It's not a game. Strong black women are not to be trifled with. They have been forged through the burning sands of...
#WednesdayWisdom #012: The Absolute Best Explanation of What His Leadership Her Trust Means
Happy #WednesdayWisdom!!! When I came up with the name ‘His Leadership Her Trust’ for my blog in 2013, I knew a lot of people would attach their own understanding to what 'His Leadership' means…and the conditions under which ‘Her Trust’ applies. That’s fair. I...
#WednesdayWisdom #011: Is Beyoncé’s ‘Formation’ the new ‘Say it Loud, I’m Black and I’m Proud’?
FINALLY! I’ve been waiting for one of our mega-popular R&B, pop, or rap stars make a song that speaks to the racial, social, and political problems ailing the African American community. I’m glad it was the biggest diva of them all. Beyoncé performed her new...
6 Tricky-Transitions New Marriages Face & How to Make It Through Them
IT'S THE MARRYING SEASON! Final plans are being made…and paid for. In just a few months, love-birds across the country are gonna go down the aisle single…and come back up blissfully married. If that’s you, you probably went through some sort of pre-marital counseling...
#WednesdayWisdom #010: Pursing Relationship Goal Like A 2016 Candidate
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